Like most Americans, I’ve found it hard to miss the Superbowl chatter over the last few days and I’d like to share with you my thoughts; I’d love to hear your thoughts, too, so please do reply with your comments.
This Sunday is the Superbowl; that is, the largest and most participated in annual religious experience in the US. Just like a religion, it has it’s own rituals, and just like a religion, there are varying degrees of observance. There are those who not only watch the game, but spend an entire weekend at pre and post game parties; kind of like the people who spend the entire Yom Kippur in the synagogue. Then you have the people who just watch the game itself; that’s like those who just come to hear the shofar on Rosh Hashanah (or just for Yizkor on Yom Kippur). You even have the people who just watch the commercials - like the crowd that comes just for the kiddush (or the JFK Club as it’s called)!
That’s right, the Religion of Sports has, for many American Jews, replaced their Jewish heritage. It provides community and a goal to work toward, and no doubt the euphoric sense of being in a stadium packed with fans can easily compete with the most inspiring religious experience.
Is there anything wrong with this? Of course, playing sports, and even supporting a professional team, is not in itself a terrible thing - far from it! However, I think the loss of a Torah-value centric lifestyle is truly detrimental.
The way I see it, the primary difference between the Torah centered lifestyle and a secular oriented lifestyle is this: The Torah focuses on giving and the secular value system is based on taking.
What do you think, is there something wrong with taking? Is there something wrong with watching out for your needs?
It seems that there is - there’s something unsettling about taking and it makes us uncomfortable. Perhaps it’s because man is hardwired to be a giver, to contribute. Of course we have to take care of ourselves, but what is the end goal? Why are we taking care of ourselves? Just so that we can live a little longer and be a taker for more time? Or is there something more?
More to life there definitely is, but the secret is not looking out for yourself with more passion - it’s doing more for another. That’s how we fulfill our purpose in life.
The Torah advocates giving, both to G-d and to man. Doing a mitzvah because that’s what G-d wants from us, not just because it feels like the right thing to do. Helping another in times of need, not to varnish our resume or be awarded the “Humanitarian of the Year” award, but rather just to help them.
The most ironic part of it is, that the secret to finding happiness is not by getting what you want from life, it’s by giving of yourself to others. In other words, the more you focus on giving, both to man and G-d, the happier your life will be. So go ahead, try giving instead of taking; you’ll be happier for it!