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Do you feel that your life has too much going on? Do you feel that there are so many different disparate dimensions of your life that each need to be dealt with differently? If you are like so many people, you probably feel – to some extent at least – that you need to get a handle on the different parts of your life. How do we gain control?
Stay with me for a moment while I share with you an important discussion in this week’s Torah portion and you will see that its message has direct relevance to us. This week we read about Ya’akov blessing and instructing his children immediately before his passing. At this time he also alludes to the reason why Re’uven, the firstborn, lost the privilege of his progeny becoming the Jewish kings and why it was instead transferred to Yehudah’s descendants.
Re’uven had years prior interfered with his father’s sleeping arrangements. Ya’akov had four wives and when Rachel died, Re’uven had moved his father’s bed to his mother Leah’s tent, rather than where Ya’akov had placed it, in Bilhah’s tent. It was a bad decision that cost his children the kingship.
Yehudah, on the other hand, is told that his descendants will be the kings of Israel. This is due to his public admission in the case of Tamar and his saving of his brother Yoseph from death at the hands of his brothers by selling him as a slave. For his willingness to take responsibility for his actions and to stand up for his brother, he is rewarded with the kingship going to his descendants.
Sounds good so far, but there seems to be a problem; Re’uven had also admitted his wrongdoing. Not only that, he was actually the first to take a stand and try to save his brother Yoseph from being killed! When the brothers had wanted to kill Yoseph, Re’uven had intervened and suggested that they throw him into a pit instead.
Why did Re’ueven lose the kingship from his family? He seems to have the same merits that Yehudah had!?
In fact, there is a big difference: Yehudah’s admission of guilt had an immediate effect on another person: Tamar’s life was saved. As well, his selling Yoseph as a slave took Yoseph’s life out of immediate danger. Not so with Re’uven. His admission of guilt and repentance were of personal nature, he strove to better his decision making process and to honor his father’s wishes, but it didn’t actually effect a tangible change to anyone else. Also, his intervention with Yoseph only caused that the brother’s didn’t actually kill Yoseph with their own hands; instead Yoseph was placed in a pit to die a slow and painful death. (True, Re’uven’s intention was to return and save him, but that was not known to anyone other than Re’uven himself).
Here’s the point that I think is so relevant. So often we get paralyzed to inaction by the overwhelming number of different tasks that need to be accomplished. We also start to think of all the “what ifs” and end up right where we started.
We can learn from Yehudah the importance of actually doing something, taking a step in the right direction. Actually doing something, rather than thinking or talking about doing it. When we actually take a step, the road ahead becomes clearer and more into focus and we can see where to go next.
The Rebbe constantly encouraged, nay exhorted, his Chassidim – and all those who would listen – about the importance of action. He disliked the modern Jewish “establishments” method of multi-year studies and committee meetings to discuss the next step. Rather he encouraged action – do something in the right direction. This is more worthwhile than multiple meetings and discussions.
In our own personal or professional lives too, the key to achieving clarity and success is taking action.
Don’t just sit there – do something!!